You learn to handle challenges as they come up and most of the dousing “water” just rolls off your back. People who handle their day-to-day stress well keep everything in perspective and they have a plan in life. They’ve set goals and they work toward achieving them. They aren’t troubled by minor setbacks, and most setbacks seem minor to them. The ones that don’t, may give them pause, and may present a more formidable challenge, but it causes them to look at things anew and gain a fresh perspective, maybe seek some help or counsel.
People who are generally managing their lives very well may not notice certain stresses or stressors building up and affecting them more than they think. They may not notice them until things start to seem a bit overwhelming or even a lot overwhelming. When this happens, they are going to need some serious stress relief. They will need to take some time to regain their balance and perspective.
It is with this in mind that I offer these stress relief tips.
Live in Your Body –
This may seem like a very odd stress relief tip because everyone lives in their own body, right? Some people don’t act like they do. You need to maintain your awareness of what is going on in your body. You need to own it and take care of it. Nurture your body so it can get you where you need to go.
Some people get so caught up in what they are doing, that they forget about themselves: they don’t eat properly, they don’t go to the bathroom when they should because they’re ignoring the signals or trying to ignore them, they don’t take deep breaths, shift their position, or correct their posture when they really need to, and they don’t take frequent breaks to walk around and just relax when they are ultra-focused on a task.
Remembering to take deep, relaxing breaths is an especially good stress reliever when you start to feel tension building.
The corollary of “Live in your Body” is my next stress relief tip:
Maintain Your Awareness –
Stay in touch with your environment and maintain your awareness of yourself and your surroundings at some level when you are getting wrapped up in a task. It can be a little tricky to stay attuned to other peoples’ feelings, and especially tricky if some of those other people have very negative feelings like fear, jealousy, or anger, and you’re trying to keep everything very positive and work with these people. It can be tricky to stay attuned but not let their negative emotions override your positive ones.
You want to spread the “Good Vibrations” to everyone, and not let yourself be brought down by some “Bad Vibes.” If you’re a sensitive person, which really means that you’re tuned in to other people, you will pick up on a lot of negative emotions throughout the day, or at least during a typical week.
If you don’t maintain your awareness, you may start to misinterpret the negative emotions as your own, rather than realizing that you’re just sensing someone else’s feelings.
Give Yourself Credit –
Too often we pick on ourselves and beat ourselves up over silly things. We do far better for ourselves and others when we really appreciate ourselves and give ourselves the credit that we deserve for working hard and trying to do our best. We tend to be far harsher critics of ourselves than anyone else ever is. We really need to give ourselves a break and appreciate and love ourselves for who we are, complete with our many foibles and imperfections.
We are perfectly imperfect. That’s really all you can ever do perfectly, is be imperfect, i.e., human. That is a part of being human. If you don’t love being imperfect, you really cannot love yourself. Period. That’s the end of that story. So, if you think otherwise, think again.
We’ve only just scratched the surface on the Stress Relief Tips. There will be more to come … (to be continued).