The One And Only ‘Method’ To Live A Happy Life

When it comes down to it, at the end of the day all anyone ever wants is to live a happy life.But what does that mean and what can you do to live a happy life?

The One And Only ‘Method’ To Live A Happy Life

Maybe a better question to ask is when you don’t feel or think you’re living a happy life? The answer to this question reveals a lot.

Ask yourself when you think or feel you’re not happy. You will find that it’s most likely in situations or moments when something happens that you didn’t want to happen or didn’t happen the way you wanted it to and caused you to feel less than happy-joyful-calm and upset you.

But when everything is going smoothly and ‘according to plan’ it is easier to be feeling happy.

So, why is that?

Is it because of what people say to you or because something unexpected happen?

If that’s the case, we are forever bound by what is happening around us and a victim of circumstance. We would then only have a few sporadic opportunities to live a happy life and that is never (nor has that ever been) Spirit’s or the universe’s intention.

In the eyes of Spirit everything is love. We have been born and have come here our of love- we are love. To then only have a few fleeting moments of happiness in our live- if we’re lucky- goes against Spirit’s nature.

The reason you don’t live a happy life is because you (and all of us) have been conditioned to believe that what happens outside of us- people and circumstances- is separated from you and that events come ‘towards’ you or happen ‘to’ you.

A very good example of this is the saying: “seeing is believing”.

In other words: first you see something on the outside to only then believe it is there- that it exists.

But nothing could be further from the truth.

The way to live a happy life is not determined by what is happening outside of yourself, but the way youlookat what is happening outside of yourself.

Your opinion about what is happening (‘this shouldn’t have happened’, ‘he is wrong’, ‘I am not good enough’)-  your perspective- determines your state of happiness. Not someone else. Never anything or someone else.

What you see is what you believe, think and feel to be true on the inside. There is nothing outside of yourself.

Everything, your reality, the world you live in and experience, is your idea– your belief- of what you think is happening.

And if this doesn’t make you happy or makes it hard for you to live a happy life, then you must ask yourself what caused this inside of you.

When you change this- change your perspective, your opinion- about what appears to be happening, the pain that was caused by your opinion will go.

There is only one way to live a happy life: check inside what is making you unhappy. Happiness is your own creation.

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5 Quick Tips to Reduce Stress and Stop Anxiety

Like a monster from under the bed, stress and/or anxiety is stealing the peaceful nighttime Zzzzzs of billions of people. Anxiety may also be sabotaging your confidence, turning your stomach into knots, and impacting your general wellbeing.

1. Remember: This Too Shall Pass

Laundry is piling up, the baby has a fever, and your boss wanted that report yesterday. Sound familiar? No one managing his or her own life is devoid of stress and too much of it can lead to excessive worry, nervousness, dread, upset stomach, or difficulty breathing. The first step to overcoming such negative feelings is to recognize that you are experiencing a very common emotional state most commonly identified as anxiety (learn more signs of anxiety). Although it’s uncomfortable, the negative feelings WILL PASS. Fighting the anxiety can make it stronger. Paradoxically, accepting that you are feeling anxious helps activate the body’s natural relaxation response.

2. Learn How to Self-Soothe

Imagine walking down a nature path only to be greeted by a snarling grizzly bear — or worse, your boss demanding that report. When we are faced with an anxiety-inducing situation, our body’s sympathetic nervous system automatically triggers physiological changes. Our breathing quickens, adrenaline is secreted, and our heart begins to race. This natural survival mechanism — called the fight or flight response — is intended to help us to escape a true, life threatening emergency. However, when the threat is imagined (e.g., I’m going to bomb this presentation and everyone will know I’m a fraud), the fight/flight response is unnecessary and very uncomfortable.Self soothing techniques that reduce the stress response:

Diaphragmatic Breathing

One of the most effective ways to activate the relaxation response is by decreasing the heart rate. Since we can’t voluntarily alter our pulse, more tangible measures are needed. Luckily, a rapid heart rate can be lowered with deep breathing techniques. The most commonly utilized strategy is breathing by contracting the diaphragm, a horizontal muscle in the chest located just above the stomach cavity.

Positive Self-talk

If a small child told you he was nervous about going to school the next day, what would you say? Unless you’re an abusive lunatic, phrases like “you’re such a dumb little kid” or “you should be nervous because no one will like you” would never leave your mouth. This is because we intuitively know how to help others combat stress sometimes better than ourselves. To increase emotional comfort, it’s imperative to practice reassuring and realistic self-talk. When anxious, practice self-talk phrases such as:

“This feeling will pass.”

“I will get through this.”

“I am safe right now.”

“I am feeling anxious now, but I have the power make myself calm.”

“I can feel my heart rate slowing down.”

Muscle Relaxation

Stress causes our muscles to tighten and become tense. To increase a relaxed state and physical comfort, tighten and release muscles beginning with the largest muscle group.

3. Check Your Diet

What we eat and drink largely impacts our emotional state. Foods most associated with exacerbating anxiety are ones containing caffeine and alcohol. Even consumed in small amounts, studies have found that the stimulating effects of caffeine can cause anxiety, trigger panic attacks, and increase feelings of nervousness and irritability. Caffeine — commonly found in coffee, colas, tea, and chocolate — also causes physical symptoms such as trembling and shaking.

Abruptly eliminating caffeine from the diet can lead to withdrawal symptoms, such as headaches, restlessness, and irritability so it’s important to decrease caffeine consumption gradually. Similarly, although alcohol is often consumed to “take the edge off” it dehydrates the body and ultimately increases anxiety.

An imbalance of bacteria in the gut can also cause many symptoms associated with anxiety and other mood disorders. Researchers at McMaster University found evidence that the balance of bacteria in your gut may have more to do with your mood than any other contributing factor.

4. Get Moving

Most of us know that exercise is good for our physical health. Maintaining a regular (healthy, non-obsessive) exercise routine has been proven to reduce stress, improve mood, enhance self-esteem, and increase energy levels. During exercise, the body releases chemicals called endorphins which interact with receptors in the brain to causing euphoric feelings and reduction in physical pain.

5. Get More Sleep

Nearly everyone feels a little crabby after a rough night’s sleep. Disrupted sleep is common in many emotional disorders and it’s difficult to know which started first — stress or poor sleep. A study from the University of Pennsylvania showed that losing just a few hours of sleep increases feelings of stress, anger, sadness, and exhaustion.

20 Tips to Tame Your Stress

Stress hits us all in life, and while a little stress is good — it keeps us focused and motivated — too much of it and it can grind our lives to a complete halt. When you’re feeling overwhelmed and stressed-out, you may become paralyzed and unable to do much of anything.

Just as bad are unhealthy coping methods to deal with stress. Turning to food, alcohol or drugs often just turns one set of problems into another that can balloon out of control. It’s better to avoid those unhealthy coping mechanisms from the start, and find good ways to keep your stress under control.

There are many ways to tame your stress and keep it at bay. Here are 20 tips to tame your stress today, and keep the stress monsters at bay.

1. Perform diaphragmatic or “deep breathing” exercises.

2. Lie face down on the floor and begin breathing deeply and slowly, with your hands resting under your face. Do this for five minutes.

3. Sit in a reclining chair. Put a hand on your abdomen and a hand on your chest. As you breathe, make sure the hand on your abdomen is moving up and down rather than one on your chest. If the hand on your abdomen is moving you are breathing deeply and slowly.

4. Try progressive muscle relaxation or “deep muscle” relaxation. Progressively tense and relax each muscle group in your body. Learn the difference between muscle tension and relaxation.

5. Meditate. Use visualization or guided imagery to help you learn to be one with your thoughts. Sit quietly with your eyes closed, imagining the sights, sounds and smells of your favorite place, such as a beach or mountain retreat.

6. Exercise regularly or take up yoga.

7. Consult a psychologist about the use of biofeedback.

8. Make time for music, art or other hobbies that help relax and distract you.

9. Learn to identify and monitor stressors. Come up with an organized plan for handling stressful situations. Be careful not to overgeneralize negative reactions to things.

10. Make a list of the important things you need to handle each day. Try to follow the list so you feel organized and on top of things. Put together a coping plan step by step so you have a sense of mastery.

11. Keep an eye on things that might suggest you’re not coping well. For example, are you smoking or drinking more, or sleeping less?

12. Keep a list of the large and little hassles in your day versus the major stressful events in your life. This helps you focus on the fact that you’re keeping track of and managing those as well as you can.

13. Set aside a time every day to work on relaxation.

14. Avoid using caffeine, alcohol, nicotine, junk food, binge eating and other drugs as your primary means for coping with stress. While they can be helpful once in awhile, using them as your only or usual method will result in longer-term problems, such as weight problems or alcoholism.

15. Learn to just say, “No” occasionally. It won’t hurt other people’s feelings as much as you think and is simply a method to be more assertive in your own life, to better help you meet your own needs.

16. Get the right amount of sleep. For most people, this is seven to nine hours a night.

17. Cultivate a sense of humor; laugh.

18. Research has shown that having a close, confiding relationship protects you from many stresses.

19. Don’t run from your problems! This only makes them worse.

20. Talk to your family and friends. See if they can help.

If these tips don’t help, or you’ve tried a lot of them with little luck in better taming the stress in your life, it may be time to consider taking it up a notch. A mental health professional — such as a psychologist — can help teach you more effective methods for handling stress in a healthy way in your life. Such psychotherapy is short-term and time-limited, with a focus on helping you better deal with stress.

Remember — we do have control over the stress and choices we make in our lives. It sometimes takes a little practice and effort to put some of these techniques into play in your life. But once you do so, you may be pleasantly surprised at the positive benefits you’ll receive.

Dealing With Stress In A Natural Way Can Be Most Effective

Our ancestors definitely had things rough, but it’s difficult to imagine their lives being any more stressful than present day life. And due to this many men and women are attempting to figure out natural ways that they are able to begin coping with their stress. Avoiding stress in life isn’t easy, and is really not that bad in some scenarios. Stress is practically considered the requirement for certain folks and you are going to find that athletes will be able to perform better when they are actually under stress.

Even though stress can be useful for some it is additionally a thing that many individuals have troubles with. This can be a real issue for people that are in a state of high tension their whole life. Stress can wind up being so bad in someone’s life that it can in fact lead to medical issues, and you are going to discover that heart attacks aren’t rare for men and women with high stress levels. Since removing all stressful events from your life aren’t possible, it needs to be a priority to discover how to handle the stress naturally.

Because you’re always going to have stress in your life you’re going to see that using natural techniques to be able to lessen the stress on your body will be important. Stress is something which folks have had for thousands of years, and you are going to find that even then they searched for natural ways to cope with the stress of their daily lives.

Something I should point out which is one of the best ways to naturally deal with stress is the utilization of meditation, and this has been used for centuries by a lot of different folks. Another thing that folks have used for many years are different kinds of herbal remedies, and you will find that the common effects of these types of remedies can be quite successful at coping with stress.

 Something which may surprise you is that a lot of other countries around the world, doctors will prescribe herbs in order to contend with stress, unlike here in American where prescription drugs are generally recommended. Something which may shock you about these natural remedies is the fact that they can be just as powerful or even more successful at dealing with stress.

Something you ought to understand about prescription medication is that it can actually wind up causing more health related issues in people as a result of all of the side effects. I am certain you can understand that a lot of individuals wind up choosing natural treatments simply because they do not want to deal with the harmful side effects of prescription medications.

 One more thing I ought to mention about finding natural ways to contend with your stress is that it may be very important for you to figure out all the different things which are causing stress in your life initially. And also if you’re using all natural stress relieving techniques it might be advisable to try and stay away from stressful situations whenever you can.

 Of course while you are going to have the ability to stay away from certain stressful situations you are going to see that other things cannot be avoided and need to be coped with as best as possible.riding lawn mowers …Just bear in mind that there are options available for coping with stress aside from taking medications, and these options will have the ability of reducing stress and other stress-related issue’s. There are different natural approaches that you can take and you simply need to find the methods which are going to work for you.

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5 Best Things to Do When Everything Goes Wrong

Life has its ups and down. There are times when you feel nothing’s going your way. You have done everything you could but that just doesn’t seem enough. There are things beyond your control affecting you and you can’t do anything about them. Everything is just so wrong!

God becomes the famous culprit in such situations. Ohh God!! Why me!! What did I do!! Then you start blaming your partner, your family, friends, colleagues, everyone comes under the blame zone. And others blame themselves for everything! I belong to the latter category. I am like it must be my fault. Ohh yes it is my fault!! I discourage myself to the point that my self-confidence goes for a toss.WHEN EVERYTHING GOES WRONG

When everything goes wrong, you cry, you pity yourself, you blame yourself, you think you have done everything you could do, but have you seriously given it your best shot?

For instance you lose your job, you would say, why me, what wrong did I do? Ask yourself, did I do the right things then? Did I work hard? If not, then you are the one who needs to change. And if yes, then go ahead and find another job, don’t get a job start a business. You would say that it is easy to say so, to which I would say is, STOP GIVING EXCUSES! If you are the best then nothing is going to stop you.

Your relationship fails, don’t just blame your partner for it. If you really love the person then give it your best shot. I am not asking you to be the doormat in your relationship with only you working for it, but as they say it takes two to make the relationship work.

I read an article sometime back, the writer said

 IT’S YOUR LIFE, IT’S YOUR REALITY, YOU DON’T LIKE IT, THEN CHANGE IT! 

This is something which has stayed with me till now, long after I finished reading the article.
When things go wrong, it is very easy to lose track of yourself and feel helpless, it’s easy to blame others, blame yourself, many also get suicidal! But before you commit to do anything ask yourself, whatever you are doing is it helping your cause?!If not then do something that helps it and not something that makes it worse!

I am not that good with dealing with these situations either, but yes I am getting better at it and maybe in the future I’ll have better solutions on how to deal with situations when everything goes wrong. For now I have these.

 1. Don’t blame others, don’t blame yourself either.

Someone said this to me the other day, “It is not about, it’s your fault or it’s my fault, sometimes it is just the situation.” It need not be someone’s mistake always!

2. Have faith in yourself.

When everything goes wrong, have faith in yourself. Tell yourself you can deal with any situation. Believe in yourself that is the most important thing.

3. Give it time.

Be it is losing a job, failure of a relationship, rejection, failure or even something tragic as death, give it time. Time does heal everything!

4. Do something which makes you Happy.

When everything goes wrong being happy is not something which is on top of your mind, but it is not the end of life. It is just a phase and this too shall pass. Gardening helps you? Music soothes you? Reading relaxes you? Go ahead do it.

5. Work Hard but also Smart.

Working 6 hours a day productively makes much more sense than working 12 hours a day unproductively. Use your mind, energy and strength in your favour not against you.

Let me tell you one more thing, you are not alone, everyone goes through their when everything goes wrong phase.

 It is human tendency to feel better instantly when you know you are not the only one having problems!!!

 It may not solve the problem at hand but surely gives you the strength to deal with it!!!

I have been through these situations, I know times can be difficult, Ikeep faith in myself, I write, it soothes me, I fail too, but I am still trying.

 HAPPY BELIEVING IN YOURSELF…..

Getting In Touch With Your Passion

Getting in touch with your passion is a fundamental part of connecting to your personal power and relating to the world around you. It can bring you to the very center of your spiritual journey as it changes your thoughts, perceptions, and feelings.

Finding your passion does not guarantee an easy life; rather the promise is for a fulfilling life that is open to hopes and possibility. For your consideration:

1. Be true to yourself 

To speak your passion you must say what’s true for you and ready yourself for new adventures. Know what really matters to you. What truly makes you happy? Understand the things that you do best and that makes you feel satisfied.

2. Be open to support 

Remember that you are not an isolated being – you need the support of family, friends and a positive-minded social circle that will help you reach your goals.

3. Be receptive to the world around you 

Allow yourself to be aware of sensory information so that you can find the stillness within. Then you feel in touch with the world around you. When you experience this you become more positive and centered.

4. Enjoy pleasant opportunities 

 Little moments like waking up in the morning away from busy schedules are important. To find your passion you must allow yourself a time for pleasure. For many people, allowing pleasure induces guilt because they believe it is not productive and hinders you from getting important things accomplished. This is not a balanced point of view! You have to give yourself time to enjoy life. By allowing yourself time for pleasure you become more focused and passionate in your job.

5. Liberate yourself 

 When you are in touch with yourself your horizons expand. A key to happiness lies in doing things you enjoy. It is easier and liberating when we accept who we are and we allow other people to accept us too.

6. Use positive statements

 Affirmations are important in finding your passion in life as it makes you feel secure and optimistic about reaching your goals. A lot of people don’t get to their destinations out of a fear of failure. Expect issues to arise, but remind yourself to pull yourself together; let go of the past and get on track again. Some people might influence you into thinking negative. Sometimes it’s not so easy to shut them out of your life. You just have to accept that and keep moving forward. It helps you to keep your sanity.


There is no experience more satisfying than finding your passion.

 When you do the things that you are passionate about you allow your life to flourish. Allow yourself to be all you are meant to be, physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. You are a stronger person who can face challenges better because you are reinforced by being able to do the things you love. You feel more alive, positive, self-respecting, and determined. You live your life with confidence and high morale. And you feel you are contributing goodness and positivism to the people in your life.

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The Value Of Funny Quotes On Love And Life




Fun frolic and festivity is actually a component of life.  Communication without humor would be like a garland devoid of flowers. It would then be a routine procedure of transferring information and facts devoid of any newness and excitement. But thankfully items are not so. Life is filled with plethora of feelings like- love, anger, happiness, anger etc. One such emotion is enjoyable and it goes without saying that fun is an essential portion of just about every domain of our life. Amidst these, the funny quotes play a big role.

 out flowers.  But thankfully issues usually are not so. Life is filled with plethora of feelings like- love, anger, happiness, anger etc. One such emotion is enjoyable and it goes with out saying that enjoyable is an important component of every single domain of our life. Amidst these, the funny quotes play a key role. Be it a standard day to day conversation or possibly a formal presentation, a pinch of humor through such phrases makes the full atmosphere more amiable and interactive It is a cost-free medicine that keeps you away from all other medicines. It keeps you fit and healthy, physically and mentally.

One of the greatest techniques to maintain your laughter motor running smoothly is funny life quotes. There are a variety of various techniques of using funny life quotes and here are few suggestions which you may well come across incredibly useful.

One recent advancement inside the use of such hilarious quotes has been on the social networking internet sites exactly where men and women put random thoughts, messages and quotes on public forums like Orkut, Facebook and Twitter.  The assortment of topics they post on such forums varies but humor is generally one of one of the most favored topics for the same. People write quotes written by them or copy it from diverse sources, but the motive remains the same, recognition and affinity with the fellow mates. And this successfully operates for a majority of people due to the fact everybody likes fun and enjoyment irrespective of their color, nationality or any other parameter. This is due to the fact other things like selection of music, eating habits or dressing sense may possibly vary from person to individual or from region to region but a taste for enjoyable in no way changes.

Use them as a Tattoo – Should you enjoy having a Tattoo in your body, then you could possibly consider putting funny life quotes on your body as a tattoo.  In fact, right now it will be the trend of putting funny and humorous quotes on body. So go ahead, come across out some funny quotes on life that represent your inner self and tattoo them in your body.

Funny quotes may be produced for any topic on earth ranging from critical issues like politics and appreciate to trivial every single day problems like classroom or cooking. It depends upon the sense of humor of the individual to extract out the fun of ordinary moments.

There are a handful of exceptionally gifted people who can make up funny phrases from just about every scenario of life. Such are the type of people who brighten up the lives of everyone about them and spread happiness around.

Sometimes these funny quotes are also employed to spread critical messages to the vast audience from diverse background mainly because humor appeals to all. This assists persons spread the message quite easily. It has also been increasingly utilized for social welfare and for organization purposes.

One of the most evident examples of this may be the use of humorous sayings in print and outdoor advertisements and also in tv commercials.  This formula has been utilized for ages and is nonetheless successful and successful. Such quotes are used in taglines too to ensure that men and women recall them. As a result of this connection, individuals also tend to utilize these quotes in usual daily conversation which also aids men and women improve the brand recall

People also use such quotes in greetings and messages to folks they care about. They do so to bring a smile on their faces….☺

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