10 Techniques To Improve Your Speaking Skills

1. Education is about learning the basic principles, but to become an effective speaker is to practice what you have learned. My stint as guest at every single Toastmasters’ conference I go to taught me that people all have our boundaries, but that does not imply we can’t understand to keep up and reveal what we know.

2. It’s just as critical as asking questions. Sometimes listening to the sound of our personal voice can teach us to be somewhat bit confident with ourselves and to say the things we believe in with confidence.

3 Most of us make errors, and at times we have a tendency to slur our words, stutter, and most likely mispronounce specific words although we know what it means, but seldom use it only to wow listeners. And so in a group, do not be afraid to ask if you’re saying the best word correctly and if they are not sure about it then make a joke from it. I promise you it’ll make every person giggle and it is possible to get away with it also.

4 There is a whole lot to say with regards to directing your attention to your audience with an eye-catching gaze. It’s critical which you keep your focus when speaking with a huge group in a meeting or a gathering, although he or she might be gorgeous.

5 A little bit of humor can do miracles to lift the tension, or worse indifference when creating your talk. This way, you’ll get the attention of the majority of the crowd and they’ll feel that you’re just as approachable, and as human to those that listen.

6. Interaction is all about interacting with other individuals. You’ll get a whole lot of ideas, also as realizing what individuals make them as they are. This interior design services has a suggestion box for this issue.

7. Be honest, you will find instances you sing to your self inside the bathtub. I know I do! Hearing the sound of your personal voice whilst you practice your speech looking at a mirror can help correct the stress areas of your pitch. And whilst you’re at it it is possible to spruce up also.

8. A grin says it all a lot like eye contact. At this sexy stories website, the number of smiles directly results in more customers.There is no point on grimacing or frowning in a conference or a get together, unless it’s a wake. You can greater express what you’re saying if you smile.

9. There need to be at least 1 or 2 individuals in your life you might have paid attention to when they’re at a community gathering or maybe at cathedral. Sure they read their lines, but choosing a mental note of how they highlight what they say can allow you to when you take center stage.

10. Make the best out of preparing rather than just scribbling notes and frequently in a hurried panic. Several individuals like to write things down on index cards, whilst different make use of being somewhat far more silly as they examine their notes written on the palm of their hand (not for clammy hands, please). You should be comfy with what you know because you enjoy your work.

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What Are The 5 Areas Of Achievements To Be Focused in 2017

I want you to know that there’s no better time than to get excited about your life and goals – not because it’s going to turn 2017, it’s simply because today is always the best time.

There are 5 areas of life and personal improvement that I would seek to improve – health, relationship, spirituality, financial wealth and personal growth.

 None of them are at a higher priority than the others as they’re all holistically balanced to create the right combination of success in life.

It’s a fact that if you don’t have financial wealth, your life could be slightly ‘inconvenient’. If you gonna give me the lecture that the monks and priests live happily ever after without seeking wealth, then I’m not going to argue with you. But look – you’re no monk or priest so be real, nothing to be embarrassed of.

 Money is never evil. It’s a big wrong myth that rich people are arrogant, greedy or selfish and as a matter of fact, most of them are the opposite. So I would suggest you to make your goal setting in 2017 to get to know some millionaires and rich people to learn what their secrets to wealth are. Who knows – they might even pass you some opportunities you can work together with them.

If you think you’re poor today, it’s because you ‘choose’ to become this way by your acts and thoughts. Same thing – if you’re rich, it’s because the way how you act upon opportunities and think of positive outcomes.  People just don’t understand how Law of Attraction actually works.

Look – you have to work for your own success. If you’re smart, you buy some courses or attend seminars to uncover the shortcuts or just take the long road by testing out on your own. Your choice. Both ways are fine and both still require work.

The other 2 important areas that are usually missed out when someone pursue the goal of attaining financial wealth is relationship and health. My friend, time flies very fast. Within a blink of an eye, you’ll see your children already grown up or your folks getting old. So cherish what you have now because by end of the day, your success is actually measured by the relationship that you have – not the money in your bank account.

Health? Put it this way, you can’t enjoy spending your money earned if you don’t have the body and mind to enjoy it. But I can tell you this – don’t be a health freak and miss out the joy of life. I mean, don’t eat cheese burger every day but hey, don’t torture yourself of not eating that because you’re worried that you’re going to get heart attack or something. Life is short – enjoy your food but just don’t go extreme on it. Dude, I’m not asking you to take drugs, it’s a cheese burger for Pete’s sake.

One more thing about health – if you can afford it, do take supplements especially those green stuff supplements. Our food and environment are getting worse so you need whatever ‘effortless’ thing to give you the edge to stay focus, energetic and vibrant when you’re on track to success.

Spirituality comes from within. Whether it’s your connection to God, your inner voice, Law of Attraction and so on, it gives you the serenity and harmony in your mind and soul. You need that. You’ve seen and heard of stories people ‘let go’ of everything and pursue a greater goal because they have aligned with their spirituality part and ultimately, it leads to happiness. My point? Spirituality leads to happiness. Interestingly, our goal is suppose to seek happiness but you don’t see people attending seminars about this topic because they thought financial wealth makes them happy and so on. The truth… happiness is obtain when you’re grateful with what you have and understands that you have a beautiful life – regardless of who you are.

And lastly, I’ll be seeking for more personal growth in 2017. Personal growth is about enriching your experience and expanding your knowledge. You see, the only thing that does not change is Change itself. So if you want to transform yourself into a better person in any positive angle, then I highly suggest you to uncover many more secrets to personal growth that you are still unaware of.

Whether you attend seminars regularly, listen to audios or read more self improvement blog, it’s your responsibility to continue ‘upgrading’ yourself. No one’s going to motivate you or give you the cutting edge strategies for success – you got to seek that out for yourself because, again, it’s your life.

One more thing – stop telling people about your sad story or TELLING YOURSELF, get over that and start thinking how you can reach your goals (but please, not by asking the Universe to give you money).

All the best…

How to be more Happy……

Do you think that is grass is greener on the other side and what you have is just a bunch of scrap strewn around your lawn? Is thinking so, wrong??

Well, I think so too, and I don’t find anything wrong in it. My life is messed up as of now. I have a thousand things going around in my head but don’t know what to do about them. I wish I could do this, I wish I could that, I wish I could own that Royal Enfield when it passes my way again, Ohh, I wish so much, I wish the grass could be greener on my side too!

So now that you have started thinking, what do you do about it? Do you just think and envy those on the other side of the fence.


 Envy is the art of counting the other fellow’s blessings instead of your own. -Harold Coffin 

Now when I say, I want to own the Royal Enfield that doesn’t mean I envy the guy riding it. Yes, I am jealous because I don’t own it yet but I am not jealous because he has it. He owns it, good for him (that shouldn’t make a difference to me), but I own it! (Now, that is what I should really care about) When you want to be successful you pray, let me succeed, but don’t pray, let others fail!

Jealousy is both reasonable and belongs to reasonable men, while envy is base and belongs to the base, for the one makes himself get good things by jealousy, while the other does not allow his neighbour to have them through envy. -Aristotle 

Jealousy is good but don’t let that turn into envy. Draw inspiration from it, channelize your energies. It’s not about why is the grass greener on the other side, but how do you make the grass greener on your own side. It’s about how you turn your dreams into reality.

 Thinking about others and wallowing in self-pity is not going to get you anywhere. Don’t like the barren piece of land you live on? Then go ahead and change it. Be it changing your present condition, changing your attitude, being happy with what you have or making the most of the things you got! It’s your Life, make it your own! If you wanta garden thenyou got to work for it baby.

Few suggestions to help you turn your grass greener, if you are clueless and just need help starting up.


 Assess Your Abilities.

There are things which you do and things you think you can do. Try out as many things as you want. You think you can cook, paint, sing, dance, write, but never tried it, go ahead give yourself a chance.

Be aware of yourself.

Don’t Envy Others.

You know you can dance really well, but can’t cook, but wish you could learn how to do it. Now that is no reason to envy others who can cook well. Go ahead, take help from those who can cook, why make an enemy when you can gain a friend!

Have an Aim, Work Hard For It.

You start of well, but when failure beckons, don’t give up, start again. If you want the grass greener, then you are supposed to water, feed and care for the saplings, only then will they give you the fruits you desire.


Understand What Makes YOU Happy.

There is no standard rule, as to, your grass is this green that means you are this percent successful, this percent happy or wealthy! It’s about what YOU want. Pursue your dreams. Making money is important, but that tiny little voice inside you which likes to do other things as well, don’t let that voice ever die.

As for me, I am no longer pitying myself, I write, I sketch, I go out, I smile more often, there is this sense of satisfaction which I am relishing and yes I am also working hard and saving up, to own the Royal Enfield…..

Tips For Seting Realistic Short Term Goals

Have a realistic short term goal is equally important to set a good realistic long term goal when it comes to stress management. Unrealistic short term goals will create unnecessary stress and anxiety in our daily lives.How To Achieve Realistic Long Range Goals With Planned Realistic Short Range Goals

Once a long range goal is set, carefully analyze it in terms of the exact short range goals that must be accomplished to get there. Determine the path of short range subgoals that is most likely to lead successfully to the long range goal for you. There is almost always more than one way to achieve a given long range goal. You don’t have to do it the way somebody else did. You need to go about it the way that is most likely to lead to success for you, with your strengths, weaknesses, and personality and you will experience less stress along the way.Be Patient With Our Goals Otherwise You Will Get Stress

“Rome wasn’t built in a day”. The point here is that we must be patient with goals. Otherwise we set ourselves up for chronic frustration, tension, and anxiety before you even achieve your goals.Tips In Setting Good Realistic Short Range Goals

As with long range goals, short range goals should be realistic too.

Short range goals should be small and discrete steps toward the long-range goal.

Should be things we can do more or less immediately and that will move us along towards the long range goal.

Short term goals should be more specific than the long-range goals. They should be sufficiently specific to enable us to know what we want to accomplish next and where we are going. Otherwise we will find ourselves standing around thinking that we want to get closer to our long-range  goal but making no progress in the right direction.

Our approach to accomplishing these short-range goals should be planned and organized in such a way that we have a high likelihood of getting them done.

If we fail at one of our short-range goals, we should not make more of it than it really is. We often catastrophize at times like this and behave as though one false step means we will never make it to our ultimate goal. This is rarely, if ever, the case.

 If we fail at a short-range goal, we should back up and try it again, or we should figure out an alternate route that will get us around the barrier. We should not let minor setbacks depress, frustrated and stress us. They are to be expected and overcome. They are all part of it.

When you achieve a short-range goal, celebrate it. Celebrate liberally as you go along. This way, you are reinforcing your believes or rewarding yourself for desired behavior. This is a way to build your confidence and will help you to manage and reduce your stress when your are feeling down at times.

Start working systematically on the short range goals and be patient.  Things that are worthwhile take time.  Set up a time schedule that is realistic. Then, allow yourself half again that amount of time before you begin to worry about not making progress. People with goals they want to achieve, always underestimate the length of time it will take to  accomplish them. Be patient and be confident with yourself and do not stress up if you encounter any obstacles along the way.  It is part of life !

Hacks For Positive Thinking Techniques

       

As we know, our mind and thoughts very powerful.  If we learn how to manage our thoughts, we will be able to eliminate many unhappy thoughts, sadness, depression, stress and anxiety. If we learn some of the thinking logic below, we will find that our life will be much happier and less stress.

There Is No Absolute Right Or Wrong

We may think that certain acts are wrong or wicked or villainous, and people who perform them should be severely punished. However in life, there are no absolute rights or wrongs. There are things that people do that we wouldn’t do; things they do that we consider inappropriate or antisocial; and things we wish they wouldn’t do. However these people are not bad people. Simply blaming them does no good. Punishing them does little, if any, good and often does harm. If we analyze why they did something, we can almost always see the sense of it from their point of view. Thus, their actions could be expected.

If they were wrong, at least as we view things, in what they did, it is generally due to stupidity, ignorance, or emotional disturbance; so we should be very tolerant of their behavior and try to educate, redirect, and help them change to more desirable behavior. If we do so, we all come out ahead in the end.

Likewise, we should give ourselves the same break. If someone doesn’t like what we do, we should not become anxious or upset about It. We should recognize that, within their framework, our behavior seems inappropriate. We should not be blamed for that, Nor should we become anxious and depressed about it. The rational thing to do is to compare ideas, discuss it, and see if we can learn from the experience. One or both of us may change, or we may agree to  disagree, but we do better that way than by engaging in blaming and mutual hostility over a period of time that leaves us both losers.

Accept The Fact That Nothing Can Be Perfect And To Your Liking

It is a terrible catastrophe when things are not as we would like them to be. It is silly and childish when we think about it clearly, but many times we do proceed with the implicit assumption that the world and everything in it should be just the way we want it to be. We are deeply offended and outraged by all signs that it is not so.

However, with all the different kinds of people in the world, it could not possibly be to everyone’s liking. Also, the harsh reality of the universe is that it was not created only for our pleasure and to revolve around us personally. Therefore, we have to accept that the world, even our corner of it, will never be exactly the way we would like it. We should not expect it to be. When we see something we don’t like, it does no good to perceive it as a personal insult or an attempt to defeat us. What one should do is to say, “That is too bad” or “I don’t like that,” and then try to do something constructive to change or improve it. As someone has said, “if you are unavoidably dealt a lemon in life, you may as well make some lemonade.”

On the other hand, if the situation can’t be improved at all, then we should resign ourselves to accepting it , realizing that this is sometimes the nature of things; instead of getting emotionally upset and stressed over it. We often tell our children that they have to realize that they can’t have everything they want. Sometimes, though, as adults we make the same error in more subtle, sophisticated ways. When we do, it can only  lead to unnecessary upset and anxiety.

20 Tips to Tame Your Stress

Stress hits us all in life, and while a little stress is good — it keeps us focused and motivated — too much of it and it can grind our lives to a complete halt. When you’re feeling overwhelmed and stressed-out, you may become paralyzed and unable to do much of anything.

Just as bad are unhealthy coping methods to deal with stress. Turning to food, alcohol or drugs often just turns one set of problems into another that can balloon out of control. It’s better to avoid those unhealthy coping mechanisms from the start, and find good ways to keep your stress under control.

There are many ways to tame your stress and keep it at bay. Here are 20 tips to tame your stress today, and keep the stress monsters at bay.

1. Perform diaphragmatic or “deep breathing” exercises.

2. Lie face down on the floor and begin breathing deeply and slowly, with your hands resting under your face. Do this for five minutes.

3. Sit in a reclining chair. Put a hand on your abdomen and a hand on your chest. As you breathe, make sure the hand on your abdomen is moving up and down rather than one on your chest. If the hand on your abdomen is moving you are breathing deeply and slowly.

4. Try progressive muscle relaxation or “deep muscle” relaxation. Progressively tense and relax each muscle group in your body. Learn the difference between muscle tension and relaxation.

5. Meditate. Use visualization or guided imagery to help you learn to be one with your thoughts. Sit quietly with your eyes closed, imagining the sights, sounds and smells of your favorite place, such as a beach or mountain retreat.

6. Exercise regularly or take up yoga.

7. Consult a psychologist about the use of biofeedback.

8. Make time for music, art or other hobbies that help relax and distract you.

9. Learn to identify and monitor stressors. Come up with an organized plan for handling stressful situations. Be careful not to overgeneralize negative reactions to things.

10. Make a list of the important things you need to handle each day. Try to follow the list so you feel organized and on top of things. Put together a coping plan step by step so you have a sense of mastery.

11. Keep an eye on things that might suggest you’re not coping well. For example, are you smoking or drinking more, or sleeping less?

12. Keep a list of the large and little hassles in your day versus the major stressful events in your life. This helps you focus on the fact that you’re keeping track of and managing those as well as you can.

13. Set aside a time every day to work on relaxation.

14. Avoid using caffeine, alcohol, nicotine, junk food, binge eating and other drugs as your primary means for coping with stress. While they can be helpful once in awhile, using them as your only or usual method will result in longer-term problems, such as weight problems or alcoholism.

15. Learn to just say, “No” occasionally. It won’t hurt other people’s feelings as much as you think and is simply a method to be more assertive in your own life, to better help you meet your own needs.

16. Get the right amount of sleep. For most people, this is seven to nine hours a night.

17. Cultivate a sense of humor; laugh.

18. Research has shown that having a close, confiding relationship protects you from many stresses.

19. Don’t run from your problems! This only makes them worse.

20. Talk to your family and friends. See if they can help.

If these tips don’t help, or you’ve tried a lot of them with little luck in better taming the stress in your life, it may be time to consider taking it up a notch. A mental health professional — such as a psychologist — can help teach you more effective methods for handling stress in a healthy way in your life. Such psychotherapy is short-term and time-limited, with a focus on helping you better deal with stress.

Remember — we do have control over the stress and choices we make in our lives. It sometimes takes a little practice and effort to put some of these techniques into play in your life. But once you do so, you may be pleasantly surprised at the positive benefits you’ll receive.

5 Best Things to Do When Everything Goes Wrong

Life has its ups and down. There are times when you feel nothing’s going your way. You have done everything you could but that just doesn’t seem enough. There are things beyond your control affecting you and you can’t do anything about them. Everything is just so wrong!

God becomes the famous culprit in such situations. Ohh God!! Why me!! What did I do!! Then you start blaming your partner, your family, friends, colleagues, everyone comes under the blame zone. And others blame themselves for everything! I belong to the latter category. I am like it must be my fault. Ohh yes it is my fault!! I discourage myself to the point that my self-confidence goes for a toss.WHEN EVERYTHING GOES WRONG

When everything goes wrong, you cry, you pity yourself, you blame yourself, you think you have done everything you could do, but have you seriously given it your best shot?

For instance you lose your job, you would say, why me, what wrong did I do? Ask yourself, did I do the right things then? Did I work hard? If not, then you are the one who needs to change. And if yes, then go ahead and find another job, don’t get a job start a business. You would say that it is easy to say so, to which I would say is, STOP GIVING EXCUSES! If you are the best then nothing is going to stop you.

Your relationship fails, don’t just blame your partner for it. If you really love the person then give it your best shot. I am not asking you to be the doormat in your relationship with only you working for it, but as they say it takes two to make the relationship work.

I read an article sometime back, the writer said

 IT’S YOUR LIFE, IT’S YOUR REALITY, YOU DON’T LIKE IT, THEN CHANGE IT! 

This is something which has stayed with me till now, long after I finished reading the article.
When things go wrong, it is very easy to lose track of yourself and feel helpless, it’s easy to blame others, blame yourself, many also get suicidal! But before you commit to do anything ask yourself, whatever you are doing is it helping your cause?!If not then do something that helps it and not something that makes it worse!

I am not that good with dealing with these situations either, but yes I am getting better at it and maybe in the future I’ll have better solutions on how to deal with situations when everything goes wrong. For now I have these.

 1. Don’t blame others, don’t blame yourself either.

Someone said this to me the other day, “It is not about, it’s your fault or it’s my fault, sometimes it is just the situation.” It need not be someone’s mistake always!

2. Have faith in yourself.

When everything goes wrong, have faith in yourself. Tell yourself you can deal with any situation. Believe in yourself that is the most important thing.

3. Give it time.

Be it is losing a job, failure of a relationship, rejection, failure or even something tragic as death, give it time. Time does heal everything!

4. Do something which makes you Happy.

When everything goes wrong being happy is not something which is on top of your mind, but it is not the end of life. It is just a phase and this too shall pass. Gardening helps you? Music soothes you? Reading relaxes you? Go ahead do it.

5. Work Hard but also Smart.

Working 6 hours a day productively makes much more sense than working 12 hours a day unproductively. Use your mind, energy and strength in your favour not against you.

Let me tell you one more thing, you are not alone, everyone goes through their when everything goes wrong phase.

 It is human tendency to feel better instantly when you know you are not the only one having problems!!!

 It may not solve the problem at hand but surely gives you the strength to deal with it!!!

I have been through these situations, I know times can be difficult, Ikeep faith in myself, I write, it soothes me, I fail too, but I am still trying.

 HAPPY BELIEVING IN YOURSELF…..