Want Law of Attraction Tips for Your Life?

There has been a lot of talk about the Secret and the Law of Attraction that was “revealed” in it. And even more talk and publications on how easy it is to attract everything we wish.  Unfortunately, most of the time it is based on a fundamental misrepresentation or – hopefully– misunderstanding of what this law implies.





The Law of Attraction is a law of Nature not some Magic Tool

First of all it is important to understand that this so called law is a law of nature. This means, that it just describes how Life works. It is not something you can apply or not. You and everything around you is always subject to this mechanism of interaction and response. Very simply put: you attract what you are focusing on.

An example: observe how small kids on their bicycles try NOT bumping into the lamppost that unexpectedly crosses their path? Guess what happens. Probably you still remember your own big bump-on-the-head! I’m simplifying, but it illustrates how we can think that our focus is in some place, where actually our focus it is elsewhere. Another example: for most people it is true to state that even when they solemly swear they want to be rich, their subconscious cries out that it does not want to be a “bad rich person”.

Ask most people who want to be rich and almost all do not really believe they can. A majority alse secretly despises the super-wealthy of this world without ever having talked to them. Both attitudes will frustrate what these people believe they want it want.

All Thoughts Attract Response

What is the consequence of beliefs that are contrary to what we want to attract? Here’s what you have to understand: the part of you that is expressing its intention to become rich not only calls in energies to support that intention, it will also trigger a response in all parts of you. Those parts that make you feel inspired, but also those that function to protect you from hurt and change in general. An energy goes out and other energies respond – in other words you attract ALL these things, supportive and obstructive.

At this point many experts on the Law of Attraction bring in the concept of Affirmation or other methods of anchoring positive thoughts and feelings in your mind. The goal is to ban the thoughts and feelings that could frustrate the process of attracting what we want. I do not deny that such methods can be powerful, but most of us will end up using these methods mechanically without really feeling positive.

My suggested approach is three-fold.

First, do not just jump a the biggest thing your mind tells you that you want, but turn it around several times in your heart until you are clear on what is really worth attracting in your life.

Second, explore as much as you can the old patterns and beliefs that can become obstacles on the way to get what you may want. Find out how these have served you in the past and why you do or do not need them anymore. This way you will dissolve obstacles instead of trying too break them down with sheer mind-power.

Third, focus on what you really want to attract and let go of all concepts of how it will come into your life or even what it will actually look like. Open yourself for everything that might help bring your desire in your life.

 Be active and aware.A final note to this all: in the end what you want is not really a “thing”, a “substance”, but a certain experience or feeling.

If I do all this, is it possible to Attract Money in My Life?

The rumors about the Law of Attraction claim that you can materialize stuff into your life, so why not money?Let us look at the kid and the lamppost first. Did the kid place the lamppost right there in its path? I would say yes and no. The potentials of what the kid could experience are myriad. When we limit ourselves to the setting, still a million things can happen with the kid trying out its new bicycle. Does the kid plan to bump into the lamppost?

Not exactly, but in its conscious and unconscious mind a lot is going on: I don’t want to bump, I don’t want to fall, I can’t steer away and even: what happens if I just continue in this direction?

An important factor is whether the kid has learnt to trust in its own capabilities and simply knows that he or she can steer around the obstacle. If that is the case, suddenly all things flow together, muscles, mind and matter. The outcome is not really predictable, but all kids do not always hit the poor lamppost, right? Instead they learn to trust and focus on that what is helpful.

Now for the riches or the beautiful wealthy partner that you want to create in your life. Can you really attract them? I absolutely believe so, but can you be so clear, focused and trusting that you will? Let me review: in order to bring something into your life you need

(1) the clarity

(2) the right mindset and

(3) focus and trust.

It is important to understand that from the very start of your life you have already been busy sending out a lot of messages to the universe and attracting response. If you are willing to accept that you did create the “lack” of that what you now wish to “attract”, then you do understand the way this Law of Attraction works and that your present situation is no accident.

The three-fold process in the previous paragraph will help you to define and most of all understand and feel what you really want. It opens you up to the idea that it may not be Money or that the Perfect Partner will be different that your previous vision.

Aligning to the Law of Attraction

Now that you understand the fundamentals of this mysterious law, you can really begin to “make use of it”. That is, making changes to you way of thinking, your old beliefs about yourself and others and first and foremost explore what it really is that you want to bring into your life. Knowing that you attract or create everything in your life, it might be helpful to appreciate even the smallest specs of light in your life. This will re-enforce your intention, better even than affirmations, because it is solid evidence – and your mind likes that.

If this article has been helpful and you want to add or comment, please do so as it may help other readers of this blog too!!!

Quick Stress Relief Tips

When you’re feeling really stressed out, you need to manage your stress quickly and effectively.  When you’re feeling like you’re about to “blow your top” or you’re hanging by a thread, or if you are just feeling completely overwhelmed, you need to do something to relieve your stress and you need to do it quickly.

When you’re feeling stressed out, you are not in a good state, and you need to change your state of mind and change it quickly. Usually you don’t have a lot of time, so you need something that you can do in 5 minutes or less.

 The first thing that I do when I’m feeling very frustrated or overwhelmed or I feel the anger building is to take a deep breath – a real deep breath.  Then I do it again nice and slowly, relaxing my whole body as I breathe.  Then I do one or more of the following:

Continue to breathe deeply and slowly for a few minutes, feeling more and more relaxed as I breathe.  I concentrate on breathing in the good energy and breathing out the bad, negative energy.

Smile.  

It’s amazing how something as simple as a smile can really change your state of mind and give you a new perspective on your problem or challenge. When you start smiling , it’s hard to stay angry, frustrated, depressed, or overwhelmed for long, if at all.

Move. 

 You can get up and stretch, take a short, brisk walk, or do some brief exercises, including various stretches, yoga, isometric exercises, etc. Just changing your position, i.e., standing up when you’ve been sitting for a long time, is very helpful most of the time, and very easy to do.

Rest and relax for 5 minutes.

Sit in a comfortable chair and relax all your muscles deeply or go lie down for a few minutes if you can.  Breathing deeply and slowly is part of this relaxation routine.

Laugh.  

Think of something funny or something that really amuses you and enjoy it for a few minutes.  You could keep a joke book handy and pick it up and read a couple jokes or funny stories out of it.

Change your perspective on a problem. 

 Start thinking about a problem as an opportunity instead of a roadblock and see how this benefits you.  In NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) this is known as reframing.  Remember, don’t sweat the small stuff … and the corollary: it’s ALL small stuff.  That’s a helpful philosophy to remember when you need some quick stress relief.

I hope that these quick stress relief methods are helpful to keep in mind.

There are many that you can use to help keep yourself on an even keel and to stay productive and in a good frame of mind.  What are some of your favorite methods or tactics when you’re feeling really stressed out and in need of some quick stress relief.

How to Manage Stress: Stress Relief Tips

We all experience more or less stress every day.  If you’re living the life you want to live, then most of your days will be very fulfilling and you’re probably not going to be bothered by stress or distress.  You will still have stress in your life, because it’s part of living, but it’s not going to be likely to bother you to any great extent or to be a setback for you.

You learn to handle challenges as they come up  and most of the dousing “water” just rolls off your back.  People who handle their day-to-day stress well keep everything in perspective and they have a plan in life.  They’ve set goals and they work toward achieving them.  They aren’t troubled by minor setbacks, and most setbacks seem minor to them.  The ones that don’t, may give them pause, and may present a more formidable challenge, but it causes them to look at things anew and gain a fresh perspective, maybe seek some help or counsel.

People who are generally managing their lives very well may not notice certain stresses or stressors building up and affecting them more than they think.  They may not notice them until things start to seem a bit overwhelming or even a lot overwhelming.  When this happens, they are going to need some serious stress relief.  They will need to take some time to regain their balance and perspective.

 It is with this in mind that I offer these stress relief tips.

Live in Your Body –

This may seem like a very odd stress relief tip because everyone lives in their own body, right?  Some people don’t act like they do.  You need to maintain your awareness of what is going on in your body. You need to own it and take care of it. Nurture your body so it can get you where you need to go.

Some people get so caught up in what they are doing, that they forget about themselves: they don’t eat properly, they don’t go to the bathroom when they should because they’re ignoring the signals or trying to ignore them, they don’t take deep breaths, shift their position, or correct their posture when they really need to, and they don’t take frequent breaks to walk around and just relax when they are ultra-focused on a task.

Remembering to take deep, relaxing breaths is an especially good stress reliever when you start to feel tension building.

The corollary of “Live in your Body” is my next stress relief tip:

Maintain Your Awareness – 

Stay in touch with your environment and maintain your awareness of yourself and your surroundings at some level when you are getting wrapped up in a task.  It can be a little tricky to stay attuned to other peoples’ feelings, and especially tricky if some of those other people have very negative feelings like fear, jealousy, or anger, and you’re trying to keep everything very positive and work with these people.  It can be tricky to stay attuned but not let their negative emotions override your positive ones.

You want to spread the “Good Vibrations” to everyone, and not let yourself be brought down by some “Bad Vibes.”  If you’re a sensitive person, which really means that you’re tuned in to other people, you will pick up on a lot of negative emotions throughout the day, or at least during a typical week.

 If you don’t maintain your awareness, you may start to misinterpret the negative emotions as your own, rather than realizing that you’re just sensing someone else’s feelings.

Give Yourself Credit – 

Too often we pick on ourselves and beat ourselves up over silly things.  We do far better for ourselves and others when we really appreciate ourselves and give ourselves the credit that we deserve for working hard and trying to do our best.  We tend to be far harsher critics of ourselves than anyone else ever is.  We really need to give ourselves a break and appreciate and love ourselves for who we are, complete with our many foibles and imperfections.

We are perfectly imperfect.  That’s really all you can ever do perfectly, is be imperfect, i.e., human.  That is a part of being human.  If you don’t love being imperfect, you really cannot love yourself.  Period.  That’s the end of that story.  So, if you think otherwise, think again.  

We’ve only just scratched the surface on the Stress Relief Tips.  There will be more to come … (to be continued).